Sound Off: “I Had Him First”

I haven’t done a Sound Off in quite some time, but I don’t want this series to be ignored on the blog. The Sound Off series is all about a wide range of issues I want to address and spark conversation. Warning: These are my views and I would love to hear yours in the comments below. This is not censored or filtered so if it that’s what you’re into, this series isn’t for you.

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Splitsville: Why Celebrity Relationships Don’t Last

The world of a celebrity is a gratifying yet invasive lifestyle. It’s great to have people screaming and cheering your name, but there’s also no privacy at all. It’s clear with the latest leaking of celeb nude pics that there is no privacy, but that one just takes the cake. Social media has evolved into this world that sucks you in and you can’t get enough. Everyone has an opinion. People leave filthy comments to celebs whether it be on Twitter or Instagram. Everyone has something to say. That was one of the reasons of why I started my blog, to voice my opinion. There’s also a way to do it and not be malicious.

FullSizeRenderIn the latest of celeb breakups, one of my fav couples was rumored to be getting a divorce, Wiz Khalifa and Amber Rose. I absolutely love the two of them together, but as much as I do I do not know their life. Fans and social media creepers know what is presented. They know what is glorified whether it be Wiz in a picture with a bong or another chick or Amber twerking. There’s always something wrong, always. Well as much as I hate for them to be over, Amber did release a statement via Twitter confirming that the TMZ rumors were true.

This leads to the topic and question, why can’t celebrity relationships last? There are two types of extremes of the relationships. There are the ones that get together really fast and they either take the step of getting married or they can’t get past the engagement before breaking up. Then there are those that stay together for 10+ years before breaking up. For instance, take Kris and Bruce Jenner. Most might say that the power and fame of KUWTK is what drove the two apart, but again we don’t know their lives. They could’ve been headed for divorce ages ago, but now that their youngest Kylie is 17 and she’s old enough to understand, they could just be going their separate ways.

As for the couples that get together without getting to really know each other is what baffles me. No, it’s true, we (as in social media stalkers) might not know how long people have known each other. Take Ciara and Future, he stated in an interview with Wendy Williams that they had met years ago, he just never pursued. Now here it is they have a gorgeous son, they were engaged, now they’re not engaged, they’re working things out. Who the hell knows.

Then you can take Tyga and his baby mother/ex-fiance, Blac Chyna. I though there relationship was cute, but when you look at how long they had known each other, along with how young each of them are, it’s no surprise that they’re no longer together. To make that situation any stickier they’re linking Tyga to Kylie Jenner and it’s even shadier if that story were true as Chyna & Kim K are “friends”.

Moving on and getting back to the question, it really all boils down to TIME spent together. I think in order for a relationship to grow and flourish there needs to be a strong foundation before jumping into marriage or kids. yes, there are relationships that have lasted with getting to know each other along the way, but Hollywood divorce has a track record. Does anything really last? Granted, blogs add fuel to the fire, but time is of the essence and these celebs do not waste time shacking up.

Putting time aside, fame and power really switch up a person and can turn a relationship that was great into something else. Take Robin Thicke & Paula Patton. They had been together since they were teenagers and while Robin was doing pretty well in the music scene, ‘Blurred Lines’ took it to another level. I knew that the ship was about to sink after that scandalous performance with Miley Cyrus at the 2013 VMAs. With success comes more time on the road, more exposure, and it can change a person. Look at Jordin Sparks and Jason Derulo. This is another case of fame possibly being taken to the head as Jason Derulo has been riding high with the success of ‘Talk Dirty’ and ‘Wiggle’.It was just announced that the two had broken up after 3 years of what the public deemed, pure bliss. They were just coupled up at the VMAs, but again WE DON’T KNOW (Kanye voice) their lives.

Hopefully fans will stop gawking over these celebrities and thinking that everything is perfect. The only thing a celebrity has over the next person is a bigger connect and (depending on who the celeb is) an even larger income. Other than that they’re regular people. Regular people love and leave on a daily basis. No surprise celebs do too.

Video Review: Tameka Tiny Harris, ‘#WTFYGD’

Tameka Harris, better known as Tiny to the world, has been in the headlines of blogs/tabloids for her marital problems with husband T.I. I mean who’s to deny that there were issues between the two from Instagram pictures/comments to the whole Floyd Mayweather/T.I. altercation.

Well, Tiny seems to finally be addressing the situation in a low budget, yet straight to the point song titled, ‘What The Fuk You Gon Do’. When I saw this on Instagram I didn’t really take it seriously and didn’t expect it to be a ballad after the track she released with Shekinah, ‘Cut It Off’. I guess that was fun and games and this is REAL and I love it.

The video starts off with Tiny in the bed with ‘T.I.’, that’s the same set from their show T.I. & Tiny: A Family Hustle. Throughout the video it shows her talking to her girls which includes Shekinah, her BFF Shamra, and T.I.’s niece, plus another person. She’s then in the car driving to someplace that was later revealed in a Mary J. ‘Not Gon Cry’ ensemble. She ends up at a jail talking to her man behind the glass. All I wanna do is stay down for you. The lyrics get no realer because there’s no denying that Tiny has held it down for T.I.with him being in and out of  prison over the years.

I really like this and regardless of all the hate that she’s getting for whatever surgery she did get, she has owned up to it and she’s comfortable in her skin. Why care what others think? I really do like her with the blonde hair.  Also, I’ve been reading a lot of her being compared to other singers. Tiny is NOT NEW to the R&B game. She’s always had a voice. She’s a singer and songwriter. Google her!

I like the song, the video was eh, but it did the job. Hopefully her next video has better production. I mean, I hope there’s a more to come soon as the video ended with, “To Be Continued…” Check out the video below:

Then & Now Thursday (V.5) — Celeb Couples: Love & Breakups

There’s been  a lot of love and lack of love throughout the years between celeb couples. In this special pre-Valentine’s Day edition of Then & Now, I’ll be showing some of my favorite couples.

Of course there are DAILY rumors on whether the couples are really in love or not, cheating scandal, and my personal fav the woman destroying something. Me personally? I don’t know them so I can’t say anything. From what they display, it’s love. There’s also Mariah & Nick, Brangelina, John Legend & Christine Teigen, Adam Levine & Behati Prinsloo, Justin Timberlake & Jessica Biel AND MORE! Then there are the veterans that have 20+ years of marriage such as: President Obama and Michelle, Denzel Washington and Pauletta, Bill Cosby and Camilly, and others.

As for break-ups? Well there’s Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey. Jessica is now in a relationship with football player Eric Johnson and Nick is married to Vanessa Minnillo. Speaking of Simpsons, Ashlee Simpson is engaged to Evan Ross, but once upon a time was married to Pete Wentz. Then there was my all time fav couple Usher & Chilli. Infidelity was clear in that relationship with Usher pouring out his life on Confessions. Usher got married and then divorced and Chilli seems to still be on the hunt for Mr. Right. Then there’s the celeb cycles as I like to call them. There’s those celebrities that just seem to always constantly be looking for love and one name always rings a bell: Jennifer Lopez. Basically all of her relationships have been in the media from her high profile relationships with Diddy and Ben Afleck to 3 failed divorces J. Lo has always been in the spotlight.

In ‘Hollywood’ life it’s like love doesn’t seem to last forever. I commend those who stand the test of time in a world where breakups/divorce are the plague.

SPICY SATURDAY (V.4) — New Reads

I decided to treat myself this week to some new reads from Barnes & Noble. I went in looking for one book in particular.


My friends mom recommended this book to me and I can’t wait to read it. On my to checkout and I browsed the clearance section and came across a book I had been hunting down for over a year. I had saw it at one Barnes & Nobles, but never bought it. I went back and it was gone. I was so glad when I saw it today.


Being a music blogger I love any books that talk about any genre of music and as I plan for my new office I will be collecting more along the same lines. This book says that it was $9.98, but once I got to the register it was $2.14! HURRAY FOR CLEARANCE!

Lastly, here’s my February Reading Wish List. I came across these as I was browsing. The one that I’ll probably get in digital form is La La’s, The Love Playbook.

Is there anything on your reading list? If so, please share!