This past week was one filled with unexpected deaths. There’s no other way for me to put it, but then again when is death to be expected? Is it easier to bear when the person is a certain age? Is it harder to bear when they have a status?
Doris Roberts, Marie on Everybody Loves Raymond, passed away April 17th at 90 years old. Joan Laurer, better known to the world as former wrestler Chyna, suddenly passed away this past Wednesday, April 20th. She was 46. Then the following day on April 21st it was announced that Prince had died. He was 57.
The news of Doris might have been better accepted because she was 90. Then when you look at the life of Chyna, as a wrestling fan, it’s known she’s gone through a lot of challenges. Prince, the icon, was full of swagger throughout his entire career. Yet, the week before his death there was news of him being sick which resulted in an emergency plan landing, and then the news of his death. How is that easy to take?
This past week, more than ever, has made me take a step back and look at life. No matter how hard things may be for me or how hard I make them seem, I’m alive. I’m alive and I’m able to do as I please on a daily basis. I don’t have to be confined to a wheel chair. I can get in my car and go. I’m not on any medication. I have a job, while it’s not ideal, it’s still a job.
I lost my mother the day before my 17th birthday. She had been battling stage 4 lung cancer for 3 years although she was never a smoker. I never understood how she was able to deal with the constant pain and barely being able to breathe. Instead of dwelling on her disease, she fought, worked until she couldn’t, and enjoyed life. She stopped trying to figure out every little thing. For once, my mom was living in the moment. Spending time and money on herself was now at the top of her list.
Seeing what she went through plus the waves of life and death that have occurred around me, I cannot help but feel blessed for what I have overcome. There’s no other way to describe it. Have I reached my full success? No, but I don’t want to give myself a time limit. I want to continuously evolve as a person and adapt to my surroundings.
Instead of looking at the downsides of your life, look at the positive. Try to find something positive every single day. Here’s #1 on your list, you woke up. It’s hard sometimes to focus on the positive with negative energy around you or people trying to dictate what you need to do. Take a step back and not just live in the moment, but try looking at life differently. In doing so, you gain a whole new perspective that only helps you grow.