Sometimes when you’re not at the point you want in life and you have people around you prospering in their own lives it can dampen your mood and make you feel some way towards their success. It’s hard to have a friend land a new job and you’re sitting in your current situation waiting for things to happen for you. Yeah you’ve applied, yeah your friend could’ve gotten lucky, yeah you could’ve got that promotion… Why the excuses? Why not be more proactive in your decisions. Don’t be upset over the success of others when you have the same 24 hours in a day as they do.
I came across this article in the Huffington Post, Stop Hating: Five Reasons It Pays to Get Happy About Other People’s Success. Here’s their tips on how to not be a ‘hater.’:
- Proactively look for opportunities to shine the spotlight on someone else.
- Create a daily gratitude list.
- Be aware of jealousy.
- ‘Fake it till you make it.’
- Start with the people you love.
- Work you way up to dealing with the hard stuff
- With practice, you’ll be able to tackle the more sensitive issue.
In all honesty it’s hard to look at someone, especially a good friend, and not be happy for them when they reach their goals, but if you’re not where you want to be feel some type of animosity, better yet, jealousy. There’s no need for that. Just take a different approach when going about what you want to achieve. Every one has the same 24 hours, make the most of it. With the tips stated above the least you could do is act happy. Friends, family members, etc. can tell just by the tone of your voice the excitement. Yes I have told friends that I’m happy, but not happy as a joke and that was wrong. I need to celebrate their success and continue to be proactive as I wait on my time to come. Success is not going to come to you. You must work for it. So instead of getting jealous when someone reaches a goal for you, celebrate, continue to work, and when your time comes others will celebrate with you as you celebrated with them.